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Most women want to have a splendid relationship, one that will hopefully end in a “happily ever after”. But sometimes, even after putting a lot of effort into a relationship, we find that things aren’t working out well or in our favor and then we begin to wonder why. Apart from mistakes that women make in relationships which they know and may try to correct, there are some mistakes that they are completely unaware of. As a result, there is no way they can work on correcting them.
In order for your relationship to be healthy and happy, then you need to identify these mistakes you are making unknowingly and work on correcting them.
This article will be highlighting 11 mistakes women make in relationships which sometimes is not so obvious. Let’s dive right in!
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1. Feeling entitled
Often, women tend to exhibit a sense of entitlement towards their man without even knowing it! No man likes a woman who just expects him to do things yet doesn’t even appreciate his efforts.
It’s okay for you to want your man to do certain things for you, but you need to show appreciation when he does anything for you, regardless of how little it may seem. One of the keys to unlocking a man’s heart is by showing him appreciation (relationship hack 101).
Even as individuals, we feel happy when a person appreciates our efforts. It could be a simple thank you from your boss or a well done from your parents. Such comments definitely bring a smile to your face.
The same thing applies to your relationships. Don’t just overlook your man’s effort and say “It’s his duty to do it”. Make an effort on your own part to show him that he has done well and you appreciate him.
Also, you must be genuine in your appreciation. You should mean every word you say and every expression you make. Apart from appreciating his efforts, you should also learn to appreciate him for who he is as a person.
2. Always nagging
Nagging is one of the most common mistakes women make in relationships without even knowing it.
Although some women do it intentionally, thinking that it is a smart way to get their man to abide by their will, unfortunately the reverse is the case.
No man likes a nagging woman, in fact, every man wants a woman who respects him. If you have no clue what we mean by nagging, then consider this:
Nagging takes place when you persistently complain, find faults or demand for something from someone and it becomes very annoying to the person you are doing it to. You must learn to not make demands forcefully, instead, you should smartly and calmly ask for what you want. You’d be surprised at how effective this method is instead of nagging your man!
3. Forcefully trying to change your man
One of the worst mistakes women make in relationships is trying to change their man. The truth is, a man cannot be changed except when he chooses to change by himself. You need to accept your man for who he is. You must have known a little about him before agreeing to be in a relationship with him. So, don’t come into the relationship trying to turn him into someone he clearly isn’t.
Of course, everyone has one bad habit or the other and it’s okay to want to help them change for the better. But you shouldn’t make it seem like you are trying to change him into another person.
He should only let go of his bad traits and become a better version of himself, not become another version of himself entirely. You need to learn to correct your partner gently with love, and support him through the process of changing as opposed to making him into who he isn’t.
4. Getting unnecessarily jealous
It’s okay to get a little bit jealous once in a while, I mean, we all do. But what isn’t okay is when your jealousy begins to consume your every action. You need to learn not to feel insecure or freak out every time you see your man with another woman or you see a woman around your man.
Your partner will definitely have female friends, family and colleagues so you must learn to trust him and not act like a bitter, possessive girlfriend or wife. Jealousy causes a lot of damage in relationships. It may even lead you to do or say hurtful things to your partner that you would end up regretting or that might even put an end to the relationship.
So, ladies, to control your jealousy, trust your partner and stop being overly possessive.
5. Invading his personal space
Everyone likes to have some form of privacy, thoughts and time to themselves. Men especially don’t like to talk about their problems, they would rather keep it to themselves and work it out. Understand when your partner wants to be left alone and respect it. In fact, give him space sometimes and use that time to also work on yourself.
Don’t try to pressure him into talking if he doesn’t want to or be too clingy to him. Even when you go out together to a party or something like that, don’t try to watch him like a hawk or be by his side at every second.
Give him some breathing space and time to himself. You both were separate individuals before you became a couple and you definitely have things that you do individually. Give yourselves time for such things. You both should be able to have some personal time and space to yourselves (without it becoming a big deal!).
6. Not caring about your appearance
In 95% of the cases, how you looked the first time your partner saw you was what attracted him to talk to you. This proves a valid point as to why you should not relent on looking good at any point in your relationship, even in marriage.
Most women tend to cut back on their physical appearance once they have stayed in a relationship for a long while forgetting that “looking good is good business”. There is a joy that a man feels knowing that his woman is desirable and pleasing to the eye. Don’t forget that he also sees lots of other women out there who are putting on their “A Game” in appearance.
Clean up nice, put on beautiful and fitting clothes, put on a bright smile, be yourself and be happy.
7. Not building trust or breaking it
Trust is a very essential part of every relationship. One of the mistakes that women make in relationships without even realizing it is not building enough trust or breaking the trust of their partner in them.
You must constantly work on building your partner’s trust in you and leave no room for doubts. Give him straightforward answers if he asks you questions that may suggest that he’s doubting you. Don’t do things that would make you look suspicious of lying or infidelity.
Let him know your whereabouts and if possible let him know your friends, especially your male friends (yeah, I said it). Any relationship that is built on doubts or lies would be doomed in the end.
8. Involving a third party in your personal issues
A relationship consists of two people only and it should remain that way. One very costly mistake women make in relationships is involving third parties in their relationship issues.
Learn to iron out your differences and solve disputes without bringing in an outsider. An outsider in this case could mean your close friend or even your parents, not necessarily a stranger from down the street.
You need to learn to keep your private matters private. Don’t share everything going on between you and your partner with everyone around you. If possible, don’t share it with anyone, except if it involves a form of violence or abuse of course.
9. Comparing your relationship either to someone else’s in the real world or the internet, and being negative
An anonymous quote goes, “Don’t compare yourself with anyone else in this world. If you do, you are insulting yourself.”
The same things goes for your relationship. If you compare your relationship with anyone else’s, then you are insulting your relationship. People only flaunt and show themselves and their relationships when things are going well. They only show you the good and seemingly perfect side, never the bad or ugly.
You don’t know what’s going on behind the scenes of those relationships. Don’t be fooled by what you see because it is simply what they choose to let you see.
Be content with yourself and your partner. Instead of comparing your relationship with someone else’s, which eventually makes you find fault in every little thing, work on becoming a better person and making your relationship better.
Also, you must learn to desist from having any negative thoughts or exhibiting any negative characteristics. Sincerely, there is nothing lovable about a woman who is always acting negative, bitter or frustrated.
Learn to look at the positive side of things, don’t just get unnecessarily angry or angered over every little thing. In order to have a beautiful relationship, you should have amazingly positive energy that you bring into the relationship.
10. Being selfish
Girl, you’ve got to learn not to be selfish with your partner. If you know anything that would be helpful to him, share it with him. Let him know that you have got his back and you have his best interest at heart.
Also, men love receiving gifts, no matter how rich they may be. This is why you should learn to give your partner gifts. You shouldn’t always be on the receiving end. Surprise him sometimes, no matter how little the gift maybe. It’s not really about the gift you give him, but the thought you put into it.
Even when the both of you are talking, your conversations shouldn’t revolve only around you. Ask him how he feels and listen to him talk and share his thoughts. If possible, put him into consideration before making any decision that you know might affect him or your relationship. Don’t act all selfish and self centered.
11. Expecting your partner to “figure it out”
No human has mind-reading abilities, and this is why communication is very important in any relationship. It’s very common practice amongst women to leave things for men to figure out.
For example, when you are angry, instead of telling him the cause of your anger and talking about it calmly, you resort to keeping quiet and transferring aggression. You might truly not even realise you’re doing this and think that he must definitely know what you’re upset about. But honestly, sometimes we feel that something is obvious, when it really isn’t to men.
In some cases, even when he makes an effort to ask what is wrong, you just say “Nothing”, when it’s obvious there is something wrong.
Now I know this is like girl code or written somewhere in the great How To Be a Girl rulebook, but maybe it’s time we stop it! Men are straightforward in nature and don’t like to be left to wonder what is going on. We need to help them figure things out, not just leave them to it.
If you’ve read up to this point, good for you! I know it’s very easy to ignore these mistakes and just move on with your daily life as it is. But unfortunately, these things gradually destroy relationships and one day your man may wake up fed up and done with the relationship.
Therefore, after identifying these mistakes, the next step you must take is to work on correcting them and changing for the better in order for your relationship to be healthy and happy.
The funny (or sad) thing is, your man may have noticed you doing some of these things but he wouldn’t tell you. Instead, he would gradually withdraw from you which will eventually bring an end to the relationship.
We all know Rome wasn’t built in a day. A strong and lasting relationship takes a lot of hard work, understanding and patience from both partners for it to work out well. You must be willing to give it what it takes if you want to get a positive result.
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